Coping

AprilSpies

Hi all,
Had a horrible turn of events, and my baby Dexter got a bunch of corncobs stuck in his stomach and small bowel while my mom was supposed to be watching him. I wanted to take him with us, but my boyfriend was adamant about taking him to my mom's while we went camping citing his arthritis would keep him from hiking. I didn't care about climbing mt Mansfield again, and there are plenty of flat places to walk an arthritic doggo in VT, but he took him to my mom's house nonetheless. He hopped in the car, tail wagging. He loved rides. I knew it was a bad idea. He had bowel obstruction once before while living there. Every time she watched him he ate something inappropriate. He didn't listen to me and now my dog is gone, he never made it home from emergency surgery. I brought him there as soon as I got home from vt, and his kidneys were already shutting down. They gave him meds and an iv, did the ultrasound the next morning and saw the bowel obstruction was partially ruptured. He had the surgery and bp crashed in recovery, they pushed fluids, got his pressure back but he had another crash the next day. They started plasma and he coded while they were on the phone telling me they were going to let me in against covid protocol to spend time with him overnight. They could not revive him. It has been the worst pain in my life. I am so furious with my boyfriend for taking him there instead of camping with us. I'm angry my mom, brother, uncle, and nephew didn't know he ate a bunch of corncobs. He needed constant supervision, and only I could do that. I miss him so much, I don't think I will ever get over it.

that1Boomer

That is a terrible chain of events. I am so sorry for your loss. Between the anger, pain and heartbreak. there will be a time when you need to recover and pass the resentment onto forgiveness. I don't think anyone else understands our EBT's as well as we do. Holding onto the disappointment and the pain of grief will destroy you, if you can't learn to forgive.

Please tell us the best story you have of your Dexter. What made him special to you? Talking about these things tends to ease the broken heart. I pray you find peace at the end of your day.

the4thmonkey

I am so very sorry for your loss. I think you received a great reply from that1Boomer !

kellicruz

I'm so very sorry to read this. My heart goes out to you.

BulliesofNC

That is very sad to hear. Yep, I'd be pretty upset with whoever you had watching over him. They were VERY irresponsible and clearly responsible for is death. I hope they paid every cent of his medical bills and were truly sorry for their neglect which led to his passing.